Trans women and dating
This column appeared in the Equity Buckfield newsletter issue #11 in August 2023. I want to take a minute to acknowledge transgender women in the dating world. Dating is so much harder after coming out. It’s easier to find a date, but nobody seems to want to keep a trans girl. My inbox is full of people wanting a date, but every time I let myself go with one of them it’s always about sex. I’m not necessarily looking for a relationship right now, but I am about more than sex. I want connection and fun. I want dates and to feel safe in public. But that seems to be a tall order. A friend said it best: I just to want to spend time being happy together. Isn’t that what everyone is looking for? With so many people on this planet you would think it wouldn’t be hard finding someone who agrees and who also thinks I’m cute...which brings me to my next point: Why? Why do we as humans crave that connection? Is there an off switch? If so, can you please tell me where it is?...
